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Years in the profession
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Countries
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Chapters of real change
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Question that matter
The Question Nobody is Asking … … …
Your nervous system is a dog.
It doesn't speak goals.
It speaks where's the ball.
There is a question that has frustrated human beings for as long as human beings have been capable of frustration. Why can't I just change? I know what I need to do. I understand exactly what is happening. I have read the books, done the therapy, understood the pattern. And yet here I am again.
The answer is not lack of willpower. It is not lack of knowledge. It is that nobody has ever spoken to the right part of the system.
This book is about the gap between what you consciously want and what your nervous system is actually running. That gap has a name. It is called emotional debt. It accumulates silently. It disguises itself as personality. And it collects interest every single day.
This book is about how to see it, name it, and change it. Not in theory. In the room. Under pressure. Where it actually matters.
INSIDE THE BOOK
Eleven Chapters
One Thread.
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Rocky Horror, a Melbourne kerb, and the four meanings that changed everything.
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Why your nervous system won’t respond to a five year business plan.
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The bill you never agreed to pay, and why it’s still collecting interest.
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The difference between feeling like change and actually changing.
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Why most therapy is digging when it should be building.
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The psychological X-ray that works every time.
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You are already doing hypnosis. The question is whose script you're running.
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Spiritual mediocrity with a vision board, and what world-class actually sounds like.
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Trust, integrity, and the rocking chair that is coming for all of us.
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Where N.A.P. was born, and why pain with breath becomes power.
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Are you building it? Or selling a very convincing placebo?
"The nervous system speaks safety. It speaks threat. It speaks where's the ball. Until you learn to speak ITS language — it will keep running the old programme."
CHAPTER TWO
"She wasn't humble. She was still waiting for permission from a man who was never going to give it."
CHAPTER THREE
"Emotional intelligence tells people how they feel. Emotional fitness trains them for what to do about it. One makes you feel understood. The other makes you dangerous."
CHAPTER FOUR
"I have been wasting my life on tiny problems while standing inside a miracle."
CHAPTER TEN
"Are you building it? Or are you selling a very convincing placebo?"
CHAPTER ELEVEN
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